I’ve been thinking a lot about my challenge groups and my own personal health goals the last few weeks and I wanted to let you in on what I’ve been processing.
The biggest thing is how do we focus on being healthier without becoming obsessed about a number on a scale, or setting up unrealistic expectations that really don’t fit in with our LIFE values? As someone hosting accountability groups, I feel responsible for what I am promoting. Yes, of course, weight loss is a natural result in cleaning up our eating and exercising more- I’m not saying that is a bad thing. But I am saying that I want to make sure in our groups we are focusing on the WHOLE woman.
What do I mean by the WHOLE woman? I mean making sure that at the end of the day you still have down time for yourself. That you don’t walk around feeling defeated because you carry 5 extra pounds around your middle. That your confidence and joy is based on way more than how you look. That you don’t feel guilty if you fed your kids pizza on the way home from work, or that you skipped your workout to read a bedtime story to your children. That in our groups we make sure we talk about the stress of balancing work and family, and on top of that how to find and take quiet moments just for ourselves, without feeling guilty!
Does any of this resonate with you? I was also thinking about making sure we focus on the TYPE of women we want to be. (And this is not another place to compare, which as women the last thing we need is to feel like we are not measuring up in one more way.) But what are we working on in our character that helps us be better mothers, bosses, spouses, friends, etc? Our value comes from way more than how we look and what the scale says. Instead of comparing, we need to celebrate our differences and come together to offer our gifts to one another. We can’t be it all, but we can surround ourselves with friends who have strengths where we are weak. I share this to remind us and myself that we need to make sure we are always thinking about the things that really matter. Sure, carrying an extra 50 pounds is not healthy for our long term health and I can help you lose that weight. Yes, we should be exercising and at least be aware of the foods we are putting into our bodies to fuel it. But I want to make sure we focus on the WHY and also on the other things we care about.
For example, reflecting on this has helped me realize that in this season of my life, motherhood is a huge part of where I need to invest my energy. It’s not that I haven’t known that, but to make sure I realize that for the next few months my workouts will look differently based on everything we have going on. Some may say that is being lazy, or not taking care of myself, but only we know what our current circumstances are.
So, as we move forward into future weight loss/ accountability groups I want you to know that I will be making sure we focus on more than just weigh ins and what our workouts are. But we will check in with things like- did you make time to journal/pray/meditate this week? Where do you feel you excelled as a wife and mom and where would you like a few new ideas or support to make the most of the season you are in? Is work stressing you out? Etc…(I am working on what we will cover in the next group and will have a link to sign up for it by Monday!)
I will also not be running my free groups for the next few months. In light of my making sure manage my energy I need to limit the number of people in my groups so that I am giving to those who are ready to receive and act along with me. In my desire to help everyone I have let the groups get bigger, but without a boundary as to who is in the group the dynamics change and I feel the quality of the group is lessened. I feel a smaller group of women committed to making a change will produce life changes for all of us that are exponential.
So let us better ourselves, not only through health but through making sure we make time for everything we value. We are women, and there is more to us than how we look!