In 3 days it will be New Years Eve. I’m not much for a wild party but I LOVE the idea of a new year in which to plan and dream.
It’s a fresh start.
But, that’s not all it brings up for me…
I also think about all the goals I didn’t reach this last year. All the ways in which I still want and need to grow.
That’s about me, so what about you?
What feelings rise up as you begin to think of a New Year? Specifically, what health goals are you planning on hitting full on this next month?
Finally kick the sugar habit?
Drop those last 10 pounds?
Decide it’s time to stop making excuses and find your confidence again through taking control of your eating habits?
This time of year you are going to see hundreds of ads to help you reach your goal. I know, I’ve sent them out every year at this time.
But not this year.
Because this is what I have learned in my 10+ years now of helping women lose weight…
The weight is NOT about the weight.
But you already know that.
The binge eating is NOT about the food.
But you already know that too.
And honestly, you losing weight is NOT about you NOT knowing what you need to do.
And deep down, you know that too.
So, what is the key to finally seeing a breakthrough in what can seem like the never ending drama of our lives when it comes to food and weight?
It’s habit change.
And how do you change a habit?
With accountability, support, and one choice at a time.
This is what I do with clients each and every week. We choose a habit to change, we set up a plan of action, we discuss why it will be hard or easy to change, we let God speak to the inner parts of our heart and soul about who we are and that TRUTH begins to set us free…
And habits begin to change.
The ice cream no longer has control over us. We no longer believe that must suffer feeling uncomfortable in our own skin. We realize that our weight isn’t the only area that we have been not living up to our potential in. We see the weight start to melt off.
As we build a picture of who we WANT to be, we start to see it become a reality.
And when set backs come, I’m there for them to make sure we address them, and keep moving forward.
Take a moment if you will and choose a habit that you know is hindering you from reaching your ultimate health goal.
Write it down.
Maybe you need to do something completely different than you have before to awaken that woman inside and prove to yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to. Just last month I had to to that. Still needing to lose about 15-20 pounds since having Nathan, (and not all of it was baby weight), I finally hit the point that woke me up that if I didn’t change now the scale was going to keep going up. I was frustrated with myself. Not only because of how I looked, but because I felt gross from the inside out.
So I decided to do the couch to 5k program. I HATE running. I still do. I’m on week 5 of the program. I hate it.
But I also love what it gives me. In the pain of doing something that I often feel like I’m going to die doing (dramatic I know, but remember I’ve never been a runner type), I awaken to the fact that I am not going to die. In fact, I am quite ALIVE and well. I am young and strong Determined. Capable. And I push through the run. Often needing to pause to catch my breath. As I do this the self sabotage and whatever else I am fighting against as I desire to be the woman I want to be, gets reminded that I am stronger than my behaviors.
And that leads to confidence.
That leads to the scale dropping 10 pounds for me in the last 5 weeks.
That leads to me making a choice to eat a protein shake over ice cream.
And it leads to habits changing for good.
I am not saying that you need to run. But there is something that you know you could do for 4 weeks, Jan 1-31st that would begin to change your body and your confidence? Just knowing it won’t get you the results you want. You need accountability and support to push through.
There were days I didn’t want to run. Days I walked more than I truly needed to. A day my husband went running with me and I picked a fight over nothing fully well knowing it had nothing to do about him and all about ME- it was a mental ceiling I was hitting about my ability to make this change in myself! (When you find yourself uncomfortable and pushing through to a new level you will have resistance, it’s normal. Pushing through the resistance is where the new habits begin to form.)
I share all this with you to encourage you that there is hope. 5 weeks ago I felt pretty hopeless that the scale was going to budge. I felt trapped by these stupid cravings I was giving into over and over. And more than anything, I felt shame. After all, I’m a health coach.
Shame is the playground of the enemy. It’s the idea that perfection is something to be attained, that we all much have it together at all times or we’re not valuable. But where shame can’t live is in community, out in the open. It loses it’s power. So I shared my struggle and began to see that the change needing to happen was much smaller than it appeared when it was all in my head. That having 20 pounds to lose had nothing to do with my ability to coach, rather it gave me more authority because I know first hand what it takes to lose the weight.
And today, 5 weeks later, I feel more empowered than I have in a long time. I look amazing, feel amazing, have more energy for my boys, and am excited to continue on and get the last 5-8 pounds off. But even if the scale were to stay right where it is, I feel beautiful and strong because I know that I am not at the mercy of my weight. I CAN do anything I put my mind to. Even running!
Where are you at in your journey? Are you ready to make a new years resolution that you can actually stick to? That habit you wrote down earlier, do you have a plan to break it? I didn’t write up some compelling sales campaign this year to fill my coaching practice. I share from my heart today and trust that if you have resonated with my story and are looking for someone to help you in your journey, I ask you to take the first step and contact me. Click here to schedule your free 30 minute habit breakthrough kick off session. Or respond to this email that you would like to get started.
I have 3 levels of coaching you can jump into- January Habit Break Through (starts Jan 1st!), my 6 Week Body Confidence program, or my 90 day Lifestyle Transformation. One will be perfect for what you are looking for.
Happy New Year! May you be blessed beyond measure, and may you awaken more and more to the fullness of all God has created you to be. Finding confidence in body, spirit, mind, and heart. I pray you will find the way forward to lasting habit changes, that next year you will look back and be inspired by yourself and all that you accomplished in 2016.
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