I’ve been thinking about why I’ve been ‘off’ a little when it comes to promoting my weight loss challenge groups. And even when it comes to posting on my Facebook page. And here’s my conclusion…there are many days that I really don’t care if you have worked out or not. Now, don’t get me wrong or take that wrong, I think that exercising is SOOO good for our health. For our mental sanity, for our heart, for our bodies, and more benefits that come with it. Where I feel I am struggling is to make sure it’s understood that those reasons I mentioned above are the most important reasons, NOT so that we look a certain way. I know that ‘before and after’ photos are inspirational to many people, but I think the inner transformation that happens is just as important and yet harder to see. The last thing I want to do is help promote more self-image issues for women who already are bombarded everyday with everything we should and shouldn’t be.
I think even for myself, I’ve been struggling to find the balance in making sure I am an example to those in my groups, but also keeping it real that fitness isn’t my #1 passion. You know those people who wake up everyday and life doesn’t begin unless they exercise? That’s not me. I love how it makes me feel, but I still have to daily tell myself to do it. It doesn’t come from a place deep within, it’s just a chore to me that I need to check off. If you looked at my body, you would say ‘she’s slim’, but has an extra 5-8 pounds on her. And I want to be okay with that. Now, it’s not anyone that puts these expectations on myself except for myself. Or that if you think to be a health coach you should be healthy, I mean it kinda makes sense right? But what about being healthy having lost 35+ pounds, and though I still carry an extra 5-8 pound I should feel okay? So I think my conclusion is to make sure my posts are more holistic. Because that’s what I care about most. I don’t care that you have rock hard abs as much as I care that you take time to love on your children each day. If you hit your goal weight and still aren’t happy with your life what has all the work been for? So it’s how do we focus on all of that as we journey to better health together? And me being okay to be me, not trying to be like any other coach. Some will inspire you because they do have bodies that they have worked hard for, and have exuded extreme discipline to get it that way. Some coaches will inspire you because they love food and can share tasty recipes and new ideas to eat healthier. Some will inspire you to be a better parent. And that is the beauty, there is someone for everyone.
So I guess I am trying to find out what makes me different when it comes to a Facebook page that people would want to follow. Maybe it’s that even after losing weight and keeping it off for 5+ years, it’s still a struggle for me? Maybe it’s that I want to remind us that why we need to exercise to be healthy, we need to hold realistic images for ourselves of what we want out bodies to look like? Maybe it’s to encourage us that at the end of the day if we look like our ‘dream selves’ but have no time or energy to engage those we love that we have missed the point? And maybe this all a part of my journey to keep myself in check, that I don’t focus more time than is necessary to try and look a certain way, but remember being a happy mom and wife is my ultimate goal. Exercise is a part of that, and Beachbody coaching is a part-time job for me that I LOVE, but I need to make sure keep myself in check with how hard I am on what my body should look like in order to be that coach!
That’s a little of what’s going on in me, just doing a lot of thinking!